Comments on: A cliché along the way http://www.gabberon.com/2008/09/17/cliche-along-the-way/ Gabber on & on & on Wed, 27 Jan 2010 13:19:28 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: gabberon http://www.gabberon.com/2008/09/17/cliche-along-the-way/comment-page-1/#comment-16 gabberon Tue, 23 Sep 2008 14:43:41 +0000 http://gabberon.wordpress.com/?p=77#comment-16 ahh yes, only time will tell ahh yes, only time will tell

]]> By: Erica http://www.gabberon.com/2008/09/17/cliche-along-the-way/comment-page-1/#comment-15 Erica Mon, 22 Sep 2008 15:42:24 +0000 http://gabberon.wordpress.com/?p=77#comment-15 By nature, I must offer a counterargument. I don't think that things necessarily pass, I think the person merely forgets them or suppresses them, voluntarily or not, by resolving the problem or running from it. Also, I have never known you to have a second in your life when you were not being proactive about something, pursuing a goal or person or job, etc. I would have interpretted "good things come to those who wait" to imply that the more you desire something, the time and suspense can kill you. After wanting something so badly for such a long time, if you do not first give up on it, it will be exponentially better when it finally comes to you. Just my 2 cents. As for your goals, I don't think your mistakes are detours, because they don't always lead you back onto your original route, I think they are meant to change you and maybe change your plans or goals. I don't necessarily mean to apply this to any particular events in your life, but anyone's life in general. I think mistakes force you to take your eye off the prize for a second and tend to other important matters that somehow you need to do or know before you get to the prize. It's experience under your belt. *Tangent* For example, if Sally Jo hopes to someday become an accountant, and one day at her internship she punches in a wrong number, screws up an entire report and gets fired, she can walk away with the experience and either apply it to her future accounting work or she might realize "wow, if there is no room for mistakes, maybe I don't want to be in this profession." I digress. I think your point about others learning from your mistakes is a good one. I also think when someone tells you that you are not learning from your mistakes, it is possibly because they see you in a way that you cannot see yourself, from a 3rd person perspective. There are a million ways to argue this (varying perceptions on life, society, perfection, etc), but I think until you have demonstrated that you learned, changed, and grew in the way they expected you would, they will never know if you learned from your mistakes. Of course, they may have different plans for you, ways they think you should act, speak, think, etc, than you have for yourself. I don't think anyone, not even yourself, can judge completely whether or not you have learned from an experience, and I'm not sure it's even possible to stop learning from an experience, because it fundamentally changes who you are and even the smallest incident down the road that causes you to reference a past experience will alter you, your direction, or your decision. And I end with the cliche: only time will tell. I apologize for the rambling and the excessive amount of incomplete or incoherent thoughts. =) By nature, I must offer a counterargument. I don’t think that things necessarily pass, I think the person merely forgets them or suppresses them, voluntarily or not, by resolving the problem or running from it. Also, I have never known you to have a second in your life when you were not being proactive about something, pursuing a goal or person or job, etc. I would have interpretted “good things come to those who wait” to imply that the more you desire something, the time and suspense can kill you. After wanting something so badly for such a long time, if you do not first give up on it, it will be exponentially better when it finally comes to you. Just my 2 cents.
As for your goals, I don’t think your mistakes are detours, because they don’t always lead you back onto your original route, I think they are meant to change you and maybe change your plans or goals. I don’t necessarily mean to apply this to any particular events in your life, but anyone’s life in general. I think mistakes force you to take your eye off the prize for a second and tend to other important matters that somehow you need to do or know before you get to the prize. It’s experience under your belt. *Tangent* For example, if Sally Jo hopes to someday become an accountant, and one day at her internship she punches in a wrong number, screws up an entire report and gets fired, she can walk away with the experience and either apply it to her future accounting work or she might realize “wow, if there is no room for mistakes, maybe I don’t want to be in this profession.” I digress. I think your point about others learning from your mistakes is a good one. I also think when someone tells you that you are not learning from your mistakes, it is possibly because they see you in a way that you cannot see yourself, from a 3rd person perspective. There are a million ways to argue this (varying perceptions on life, society, perfection, etc), but I think until you have demonstrated that you learned, changed, and grew in the way they expected you would, they will never know if you learned from your mistakes. Of course, they may have different plans for you, ways they think you should act, speak, think, etc, than you have for yourself. I don’t think anyone, not even yourself, can judge completely whether or not you have learned from an experience, and I’m not sure it’s even possible to stop learning from an experience, because it fundamentally changes who you are and even the smallest incident down the road that causes you to reference a past experience will alter you, your direction, or your decision. And I end with the cliche: only time will tell.

I apologize for the rambling and the excessive amount of incomplete or incoherent thoughts. =)

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